Husband doesn’t believe in my depression. It sucks to have a mental illness and be around people who believe it’s all in your head. But the proof is that there’s a 3rd person telling us we aren’t as bad as we feel, people do love us, we have a job where we are needed or a husband or child who depend on us. On a deep level we know that every single one of us is born equal. Our behaviors or thoughts do not change our inner goodness. Then, we ask ourselves, why am I depressed, feeling worthless and unloved? I sincerely believe there is a chemical imbalance in our brains that causes ruminations and self-defeating thought and behavior patterns. Most often early trauma can cause faulty wiring but it can also be as simple as genetics.
Due to all the hits about husbands doubting the diagnosis of depression I feel compelled to say that even if no one else you know believes in “mental illness” that doesn’t mean it isn’t so. Doctors, nurses and therapists all know it is a real illness. There’s no need for shame or self-blame when it comes time to seek help, regardless of whether you get support from your close family and friends.
I’ve been on a path of healing from early trauma and depression for 3 decades. My husband doesn’t believe in medication but I do. I have a doctor and a therapist that also believe in the efficacy of antidepressants. The family I grew up in can understand it on an intellectual level however, I feel judged as being weak for needing antidepressants.
I don’t fight about my medication with my husband or my family of origin because I do not seek them out for support with depression. Occasionally I’ll bring up my depression with my husband but he will usually reply with a quick answer like, “Maybe it’s that you are getting too much sleep.” In my head I know I’m sleeping too much because of depression but I don’t argue with him. I go and tell my therapist or my best girlfriend. Acknowledgment of your pain and suffering is very important when you don’t have immediate family and friends supporting you. You can love your family regardless of their ignorance and get help elsewhere. ♥ Daylily